For those of you who've read the book by Milan Kundera, the book is not as light as it seems and it talks about jealousy and the human nature both inside and outside a relationship.
In fact the greatest relationship we ever have to live with during our lives is the one we have with ourself.
Ourself is the person we have to live,compromise and cooperate with during our entire life, 12-7-24....for twelve months,7 days and 24 hours!! It's the person we never escape from and lie to in order to cover up our faults and mistakes.Because we know the truth...they say that each person has got his/her own truth but this is not entirely correct. Deep down inside we do know both the subjective and the objective point of view,we just learn (after hard training,I might add) to ignore the little "voices" in our heads so as not to go ballistic at some point.
My example this time is not something I realized by observing only myself , it's a fact that came to me by observing two very close friends and how they behave and interact with the rest of their world.
The first one is the strong one..strong in character,strong in mind,strong in spirit...so strong that no one really dares to stand beside her as a friend and as a partner. She is not so terrifying but she seems so self-confident and she is so cultured that any man facing insecurities of his own would feel diminished next to her. She looks like she doesn't need anybody, she is independent and not even a little co-dependent...is it really so?
Of course not! Just like every woman, every human being she needs to love and be loved, to feel the affection and security that another person has to offer. Would she ever admit it out loud? By all means no...having had her heart walked over in the past and thus,having decided that love brings torture and pain (sorry not love...commitment) she ignored every single bit of human needs (except the one about physical pleasures) and she lived happily ever after....until some lonely nights she confesses that she locked the doors to her heart and now she is trapped not knowing how to unlock them, she yearns for a cosiness and a warmth that is too hard to find. Don't take me wrong,she is happy but despite all of her strength, she is not complete as a human being in the sense of how Aristotle described the human beings,in constant need of human contact and communication...
The funny thing is that me being one of the "chosen" ones,the lucky ones, know how loving and caring she can be underneath that mask of strength and logic.....
Even my friend realizes her qualities and she cannot find a way to break the locks and therefore choses to forget and simply moves on...
The other friend is the sentimental one. Always looking for love, the kind that makes the world go round, always cursing her luck for not being able to find it. Her quest,however, turned her into a freak! After looking for love and having to go through so many disappointments, she is now suspicious of every event. Good or bad, she still believes that it will turn out unlucky and painful for her and her behaviour is sweet but distant, her anger is bitter and revengeful, her heart is open but filled with fear,her mind is certain she will have to spend eternity alone...
Again, she comprehends that this is not the right way to go but her behaviour and fears became a habit,they are under her skin and remain there even after exfoliating in the shower!!!!!!!!!
What does she do? She keeps looking for the love of her life in wrong places at the wrong time! And a new disappointment is the equal of a bottle of scotch and 2 packets of cigarettes! She knows that this means slow death in medical terms yet she claims to have proved herself patient! And she also is loving and tender.....
As for myself....I chose to listen to my friends revealing their "truths" and make jokes or express honest and harsh opinions about their wrong-doings, because judging others is easy and I've worked too hard in order to lock away the chapters where my unbearable light and heavy "truths" lie......
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